Waiting, it feels like forever no matter the time frame in this process. I know I really should not complain about possibly only a few weeks or months more. Especially after over 7 years, officially, in his immigrant visa process. What has been has been, it’s the current waiting, those moments each day where you check your receipt numbers in an almost OCD fashion. Of course some days are better than others depending my levels on the stress and bipolar gauges.
My heart was skipping beats when we got notification from the embassy for updated prints. I try to tell myself, at least I know they are working on our case. While that little “Negative Nancy” in the back of my head goes “What if our case is just sitting on someone’s desk waiting while he is done with another file?”. Seriously though, we really have no idea what the adjudicator is doing, besides watching a couple of websites for any update on our case. Many people are left waiting with no updates at all until they have a request for evidence, an approval or a denial. Service requests, if your case is longer than posted processing times, are a possibility. However, most filers do not get any substantial answers from their responses. Seriously, there are plenty of people that question if they even take the requests seriously while others report that they just say anything to get the applicant or petitioner off the phone. I have not called for our case, we missed the current cut off by four days.
The good thing is tomorrow is Monday, and Monday’s are good in this process. Monday’s are the promise of a new week of approvals and a chance that ours may be included in them. There were two approvals on the same days as my case last week and approvals for the following month as well. So we are getting closer each day, but each passing day also wears thin on hope and patience for so many of us. I am lucky enough to have several friends in the same process for support. I have found an entire community of people, good people, that have been unfortunate enough to have to go through this. I am thankful to have some amazing people come into my life because of this process.
I still don’t understand how our families are ignored for the most part in the vast scheme of things. Everyone seems to think that immigration reform only affects “illegals” and “anchor babies”. Pardon me, I hate those words, but let me proceed. Immigration reform is also a huge citizen’s rights issue. The laws put into place not only took away due process to immigrants in the process, but also took it away from any US Citizen spouses and/or children. Equal protection is guaranteed to everyone! People try to argue that these “foreign invaders” are not protected by the constitution, however, they are.
The Equal Protection Clause is located at the end of Section 1 of the Fourteenth Amendment:
All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
So a simple bill taking away their due process does not technically make it legal to do so. Because such a change would require an amendment to the constitution.
Every day thousands of families begin this process, families like mine. We are just one of the many reasons that immigration reform is a must. And while I wait for an answer on our case, I will continue to help families like mine try to navigate the current process. Hopefully, that the powers that be in the House will get their heads out of their patooties and bring some real measures to help, not hinder, to the floor for a vote.