I see the comments more often than I would like to admit. It is hard enough that we have to look at negative comments about our situations from the haters, sometimes it’s worse when someone going through this mess fail to see that like all things in life, the choices we make are never that simple. Nothing in this system is black and white, there are so many murky areas in between. Not to mention curve balls, heartache and surprise after surprise along the way. I am of course referring to comments about how some people, including myself, are selfish because we chose a man over our children from a previous marriage and how they could never abandon their children like that. My biggest sin is not being naive, no, I was the opposite. I was arrogant. How could they require the spouse and parent of US Citizen’s to leave the country for processing? No chance to take the lives of 5 US Citizens into consideration in this process . Yes we have followed the law, but that does not excuse the fact that the laws were written to be unjust. How can people turn a blind eye to the blatant violations to US Citizens rights and the basic human rights that are being ignored in this process? Essentially, the choices that families like mine face, do not solve anything. Leave behind your entire life to keep your family together, albeit in extreme poverty most could never imagine, or living separated where you always hurt. Most end up on government aid as their spouse, oftentimes, was the sole or main breadwinner. Some become homeless relying on friends and family, objectifying that family even more. Sometimes, it seems nobody like to talk about us, recently I have noticed some press on our families, however, most are riddled with misinformation and mistakes; the reporter does not fully understand the situation and can cause more problems than they solve. I wonder though, if they even feel a tinge of guilt when the haters are spouting off about how our families deserve this? That we knew the consequences when we chose our spouses. Yes, this is what love is about. Again, maybe I was arrogant, but not so much to think that people deserve to suffer years or life under inhumane laws. Wanting to destroy the lives of hard working and loving people, screaming to deport them all, no care for the US Citizens involved. The thing about it is, our own Government’s foreign policy has played a part in this mess to begin with; Nafta and the War on Drugs has taken its toll and sent many people fleeing from violence and to look for a better life. But hey, they are just all criminals and so are their US Citizen Spouses and Children by association apparently. We are damned for falling in love. What it comes down to is I am nobody. I am just another American woman who is trying to keep her family above water, in a rapidly rising tide of ignorance, indifference and hate.